Why You Need to Keep Talking to Family Members

This post is all about why you need to keep talking to family members.

Are you one of those people that are always wondering about their family, what they should say to them, how to approach them, anything family-related? (Lol, I don’t know where I was going with this.) If you are not one of these people and your family is your best friend, I envy you. 

I pushed my family away over the years and my relationship with them isn’t the same as you would see traditionally. Why did this happen? Because I didn’t talk to them or open up to them.

The movie Crazy Rich Asians the other day made me think about where I was in my relationship with my family and whether I was nourishing it enough to stay close with them. In the film, Nick Young comes back home to Singapore after being away for a few years. His family welcomed him with open arms. It was like he never left. Crazy Rich Asians sparked the idea for me to discuss a topic about family.

Wouldn’t you also love to always have a strong connection to your family no matter how long you’ve gone without seeing them?

The best method of nourishing your familial relationship is to talk to your family.

This post is all about why you need to keep talking to family members.

Disclaimer

Your family situation is different than every other family situation. This post is all based on my experiences and opinions only. The intention is to not offend anyone or make anyone feel as if they are approaching family matters wrong. This post is not meant to be offensive to any religion either. All the views presented here are my own and should be used for informational purposes only. I will not be held responsible for any decisions that you choose to make based on the ideas of this post. You, the reader, will read at your own risk.

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Let’s begin.

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Why You Need To Keep Talking To Family Members

1. They Were There With You For The First 18 Years of Your Life

This is no surprise that talking to your family is important because they were there with you for your first 18 years of life. They know you best, besides yourself of course. Whenever you have questions about life, your family is a great place to ask those questions.

There are some of you out there that I know for sure are not comfortable with talking to your family and that’s okay too. You don’t have to open up to them about everything. But for your sake, open up just a little bit to keep that little sliver of connection that has kept you and your family together over the years.

I am not particularly close with my family either just because we don’t exactly agree on many life values and ideas, but with anything that I believe is a neutral topic for us to discuss, I bring it up.

If you continue talking to your family, you can reminiscence about the past stories that you all shared. Messy meals. Fun trips. You don’t have these kinds of experiences with just anyone. Only your family. 

2. They Always Have Your Back

Your family will more often than not have your back. (Except the trashy ones that don’t treat and raise children the way they should be treated. Those children are neglected and will most likely have some mental issues in the future.)

Whenever you get an award, your family will be there to support you. When finishing a big project, your family will be there to cheer you on and brag about what you have done. Even those times where you fail and make a fool out of yourself, your family is still there right behind you.

Sure, you’ll get some lectures and scoldings along the way but your family only means well. They only want what is best for you. If you continue talking to your family, you can continue receiving this support because they’ll know that you appreciate their efforts for loving you and will know that you want them to continue being there for you.

I’ve gotten to the point where I pushed my family aside so much that sometimes, they’re afraid to talk to me or ask me questions because they don’t want me to hate them. Let’s just say I took the route of deciding to not talk to my parents as often as I should have. But even though I did that to them, they are still behind me and supporting me in all my life endeavors.

It was at this moment that I realized that I should keep talking to family to show my appreciation for them. Not only will they be happy, but I will be too. 

3. You’ll Regret Not Talking To Them Later On

I mentioned how I pushed my family to the side. In summary, I chose to get away from my family, postpone talking to them if I didn’t feel like it, and choose to hang out with my friends instead. I did this for my first 3 years of college. I moved away and barely went home.

A part of me was trying to slowly cut them out of my life. But why? I was getting tired of them telling me what to do all the time and not letting me enjoy my time to do what I wanted. And for that, I went away.

I want to say that I regret not opening up to them more just because my relationship with them is tainted a little bit but I also don’t regret it because I appreciate them more now that I have gotten my much-needed break from them.

I think my relationship with them is just better and more understanding now, but I know that if I had continued this neglecting behavior towards my family, I would’ve lost that familial connection and would never be able to interact with them the same again. And that’s when I’ll regret not talking to my family when I need them most. 

You don’t want to regret talking to your family members because one day they won’t be here anymore and you’ll be too late to make up for it.

4. You’ll Envy Other Families

As you get older, you’ll meet more families. They may be your friends’ families. Your spouse’s family. Maybe even random families you meet who knows where. But when you see all these families interacting with each other, you’ll start to think about yours.

You’ll think about how you could also be with your family right now and enjoy your time with them like how everyone else is with their family. But since you aren’t with your family, you have to feel familial love from someone else’s family. And we all know someone else’s family isn’t the same as yours.

They won’t understand you the same. They’re only nice to you because you’re a guest, an outsider. It’s not family. (At least not at first.)

You need to talk to family more often because when you see these other families, you’ll appreciate the idea of family more. You’ll feel lucky that you have a family at home too. You won’t feel left out.

5. Family Gives You More Purpose In Life

I feel like family is such a big part of everyone’s life. You grow up with your family and one day you’re building a family of your own. In a way, having a family gives you purpose in life. Of course, this is most definitely not the case for everyone but it is the scenario that we see most often.

If you were to stop talking to your family, you’ll be 100% focused on yourself. Your needs. Your wants. Anything that only pertains to you. This idea sounds really great. We all love putting ourselves first. But eventually, you’ll be experiencing the same thing over and over again with little to no variety. You will be in too much control.

If you stay in touch with your family, there is a little bit of the unknown that is left for your family to dictate. If they want to eat something different that night or if you all are planning a family reunion.

Keeping in touch with your family gives you more to do with your life. Having a family takes the reigns out of your hands every now and then. Even you need a rest from yourself. 

Ending Note

Overall, just stay in touch with your family. Even if you don’t have a traditional family with parents and siblings because of situational reasons, you can talk to friends too. Build your own little family with the close friends that you have (if they are willing).

I mainly wanted to emphasize the importance of talking to your family because I am slowly starting to realize how important it is for me to continue talking to mine. Don’t lose your familial relationship the same way I almost did.

I love my family so much and can’t imagine life without them. I wouldn’t trade my family for anyone else’s and I hope you wouldn’t either.

Hopefully, you like this post and let me know in the comments about your views on how you should talk to your family members to nourish the relationship. 

This post was all about why you need to keep talking to family members.

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